Tonight, my son is having his first sleepover at his dad’s new house, the one my ex moved into with his girlfriend/mistress, the house I didn’t know existed until I got my Cavanaugh back from a visit on Saturday. I’d planned to drop him at his dad’s apartment but got a text to meet him . . . → Read More: I Don’t Know What I Don’t Know
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 4 comments  Posted on November 7th, 2011 in Divorce, Parenting, Self Care, Single Parenting  child meets ex's significant other, Divorce, single parenting One of the things just about everyone in my divorce recovery class had in common was that we couldn’t listen to music. Those songs take you back, evoke the feel of your lover’s neck on your lips, or the shirt he was wearing at Old Navy as “September” piped over the crackling speakers and you . . . → Read More: Getting My Groove Back Leave a comment Posted on November 2nd, 2011 in Divorce, Emotional Self Care, Parenting Divorce, music after a break up, Parenting, SYTYCD Last year at this time, we were leaving home indefinitely. The house was going on the market. My ex and realtor were staging it so I had no idea what it would look like when we got back or if it would still be mine. Six weeks later, as I drove through my neighborhood and . . . → Read More: Leaving Home 6 comments Posted on June 20th, 2011 in Parenting, Travel Divorce, house care while on vacation, packing tips, water timers My house is defeating me. It started on Sunday when I tried to mow the lawn. Having done so successfully once in my life so far, I was pretty sure I had the skills necessary. Not true. Plus, sometimes mowing the lawn is representative of a whole bunch more than house maintenance. Maybe it was . . . → Read More: Light Bulbs and Lawn Mowers 7 comments Posted on June 9th, 2011 in Divorce, Single Parenting Divorce, single homeowner, single parenting I got married eight years ago today. Two weeks ago, I finally took off the heart shaped thumb ring my husband gave me the night before our wedding. He’d hidden it in peppermint ice cream, my favorite. I kept wearing the ring, not because I was holding on to the relationship but because I love . . . → Read More: Happy Unniversary Last night was supposed to be Cavanaugh’s first sleepover at his dad’s place. When his dad called on Wednesday to postpone, I wasn’t even mad. It didn’t matter that two months ago I’d asked him to keep this weekend free, or that this was going to be Cavanaugh’s first night away from me ever, or . . . → Read More: I’m So Happy You’re Here 6 comments Posted on April 16th, 2011 in Divorce, Single Parenting, Sleep Divorce, separation anxiety, sleepovers at dad's house Psychologists might categorize what I’m experiencing as post-event letdown, but it could be more accurately described as post-vacation funk. No, that’s not right either. First, I thought it was just the heat and the empty frig. After winter coats at the Chicago airport, we were in shorts and t-shirts. I got sunburned taking a walk. . . . → Read More: Where Are the Grown-Ups? Leave a comment Posted on March 25th, 2011 in Divorce, Mental Health, Single Parenting anxiety disorder, Divorce, loneliness, post vacation blues I’m used to traveling with my kid. All of those articles in parenting magazines offering advice were well read by me when he was little, as were the emails from friends with older kids whose advice I solicited. Here’s what true for Cavanaugh: traveling is great, especially on an airplane where I’m not in the . . . → Read More: Flying High Leave a comment Posted on March 8th, 2011 in Divorce, Parenting, Single Parenting, Travel Divorce, escaping sxsw, single parenting, traveling with a child, zilker kite festival Yesterday I received a long attacking comment, the equivalent of a mail bomb really, from my ex-husband’s girlfriend on the post What I’m Not Missing. Of course she has opinions about this post. I don’t begrudge her those opinions. But I won’t air them here. This blog isn’t for her or about her–or my ex-husband. . . . → Read More: No Combat Zone 20 comments Posted on February 28th, 2011 in Divorce, Writing censorship, Divorce, grief, self-censorship, Writing I want to say February has been a rotten month. But rotten isn’t right. February has offered up one hardship after another and I’m tired. If I offer the month in review, could it just be March now, do you think? There were the big things. My ex-husband was out of town most of the . . . → Read More: Marching On 3 comments Posted on February 24th, 2011 in Divorce, Parenting, Self Care, Single Parenting anniversary of separation, Divorce, grief, recovering from loss |
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