Another resolution for this month is to catch up and keep up with paperwork. I’ve actually been helping a couple of friends of mine organize their papers recently. My sense of accomplishment (and theirs) is immense when watching massive piles and jumped files turn into color-coded and labeled files and containers, along with bags of . . . → Read More: Buried in Paper
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 2 comments  Posted on January 14th, 2011 in Organizing, Parenting, Resolutions  handling paperwork, new year's resolutions, organizing For years, I’ve been trying to figure out how to give myself an earlier bedtime. Now that I’m a mom, I’m trying to give my son an earlier bedtime so I can give myself one too. How does it need to start? With waking up earlier. But I don’t like that. Not at all. I . . . → Read More: Lights Out 5 comments Posted on January 12th, 2011 in Parenting, Resolutions, Sleep bedtime, get more sleep, Parenting, resolutions One of my resolutions for this year is No yelling. To help me out with that one, I lost my voice on Saturday. Still, I’ve only checked off two days of successfully not yelling at all this year: January 1st and 8th–the day after I lost my voice when everything in me was too sore . . . → Read More: No Yelling 7 comments Posted on January 10th, 2011 in Resolutions, Single Parenting alternatives to yelling, new year's resolutions, Parenting, self improvement I had great intentions for the start of the new year: making vows to myself, doing a collage for 2011 with all I wanted to manifest this year, and starting the Happiness Project with a group of friends. Then I got a head cold, which traveled into the rest of my body and sent me . . . → Read More: Good Intentions 2 comments Posted on January 6th, 2011 in Health, Mindfulness happiness project, Health, life, new year, personal I do not want getting divorced to steal Christmas. At this time of year particularly, my ex-husband’s absence is visceral. I ache with it. No, that’s not accurate. It’s not actually the absence of Mike. It’s the absence of marriage, of intact family, of the illusion of what our life was like. Because the reality . . . → Read More: Oh Christmas Tree 3 comments Posted on December 12th, 2010 in Divorce, Holidays, Mindfulness, Single Parenting holiday blues, holidays after divorce, single parenting Tomorrow, we’re supposed to be grateful. To say it more generously, we set aside the day to give thanks. I’ve been hanging out with a lot of people who are getting divorced. Just like those who have experienced a death, a move, or a loss of home, those just divorced or divorcing contend not only . . . → Read More: Thanksgiving Eve 2 comments Posted on November 24th, 2010 in Divorce, Holidays, Mindfulness Divorce, loss, pressure of the holidays, Thanksgiving What happens when you don’t run away from your feelings? I’ve been engaged in this experiment since February 24th, the day I agreed to a divorce. Anytime, I’d ever experienced a devastating loss, or even major discomfort, I managed to escape it: with alcohol or other substances, with cigarettes, or sex, or working too much. . . . → Read More: Not Escaping 9 comments Posted on November 10th, 2010 in Divorce, Emotional Self Care, Mindfulness, Self Care, Spiritual Divorce, grief, healing, living in the present moment, the wisdom of no escape I spent the weekend thinking about death and fighting the urge to leave the present moment. It is easy to think I should fall in love, launch a business, or do something else big and significant right now. But that’s the trap, isn’t it? I’m not talking about putting things off as if we have . . . → Read More: Reminder of Mortality 2 comments Posted on September 12th, 2010 in Divorce, Eat This, Emotional Self Care, Mindfulness, Parenting, Self Care, Single Parenting death, Divorce, finding happiness, Mindfulness, self care I just found out tonight that a woman from my divorce class died in a car accident. I liked her. I am sad she is gone. The thing that feels most tragic to me is that she was about to start her big new life. The happy one. Outside of her horrible marriage. She was . . . → Read More: Seek the Light 4 comments Posted on September 10th, 2010 in Divorce, Mindfulness, Self Care, Spiritual death, Divorce, Mindfulness The thing about grief is that wasted or sober, no matter how many stages people label or what coping strategies anyone offers, it is painful. I spent this afternoon with an old friend. The last time he and I were close I was grieving the loss of who I thought was my soul mate. Actually, . . . → Read More: Who (Is) Me? 2 comments Posted on July 29th, 2010 in Divorce, Emotional Self Care, Mindfulness, Self Care Divorce, grief, reunion, self awareness, spirituality |
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