We all live by a set of beliefs that inform how we see ourselves, see others, and function in the world. These beliefs may be helpful, contradictory, conscious or unconscious, but they turn into rules we live by: people are good (or bad), life is a struggle (or I won’t have to deal with than . . . → Read More: What Are the Rules You Live By?
My son turned five a couple of weeks ago and it’s sent me into a bit of a tailspin. Okay, maybe not just his turning five. We had a Halloween party, a birthday, house-guests with small children for a week. We got a cat who didn’t eat for the first few days, then got an . . . → Read More: Turning Five
Lately, I’ve found myself asking Cavanaugh to “Be still.” Some kids fidget a lot. I did. My son usually doesn’t.
So his case of the wiggles is a sign, not even a subtle one. Still, it took me at least two weeks, maybe a month to figure this one out. Looking back, I realize I’ve . . . → Read More: Wiggle Witch
As you may have noticed from the infrequency of my posts, I haven’t had a whole lot of time this summer. Maybe you’ve just started reading in the last couple of months and don’t remember when I used to write almost every day. My writing less is both a good and a bad thing.
I . . . → Read More: What Looks Like Progress
What needs to be done right now? Not nearly as much as we think. Get to the store because we’re out of milk? Get the kid to school or bed? Drive through the yellow light? There’s this need to get things done, hurry up, move, move move.
In the personality caliper I took for my . . . → Read More: A False Sense of Urgency
This was the weekend of the unexpected. I went to water the fern on my front porch yesterday and a bird flew out. There were five blue speckled eggs inside. That was a fun surprise.
My big treat to myself was to get a pedicure. I was going to relax, drink a latte, and read . . . → Read More: Not the Rapture
Ever since last November when a friend was looking for someone to help her organize her papers, I’ve been helping other friends get organized. I clear chaos (usually of the clutter and paper variety). Creating order and systems is a great way of managing anxiety. I’ve been using it as a strategy to manage my . . . → Read More: Clear Your Clutter
Yesterday, my friend Kristin treated me to a massage. We’ve been trying to fit a lot into this trip–including relaxing. I like massages, but I want mine to be deep and therapeutic. A relaxation massage, which translates to me as someone softly rubbing my skin, doesn’t actually relax me at all. It’s hard for me . . . → Read More: Lying Meditation
I like March better already. The sun is out. I’ve had a picnic breakfast and picnic lunch on my back table this week. I’m going to cut back the plants winter froze, so that spring can grow blooms in my garden. According to the Magic Tree House books 37-40, there are four secrets to happiness, . . . → Read More: Approaching Happiness
Is it absolutely insane to make resolutions to remember love the first February after a divorce? Especially when the last date you had with your husband was on Valentine’s Day of the previous year?
It depends on who you’re remembering to love. I wrote some last month about my January resolutions, but I haven’t actually . . . → Read More: Remember Love