The metabolic benefits of grief seem to have worn off. No, I know nothing scientific about metabolism or grief. What I do know is that many of the divorcing folks I’ve known lose a ton of weight without even trying. Why? In my case, the sadness was so profound there was no food that would comfort me.
That was actually a gift. It made me aware of eating habits. I didn’t snack late at night. I didn’t go to Baskin Robbins for World Class Chocolate ice cream. I didn’t keep potato chips in the house. Are you noticing the past tense? It’s past as much of the grief has past. I find myself back to my old unhealthy eating habits. I love butter, sugar, fat. Put them together into cookies or muffins, melt it over popcorn, make it into empty calories and I am likely to eat it up.
But I don’t want to. I liked losing pants sizes. I liked having a trimmer waist, not feeling guilty after I ate, not being in a constant carb or sugar craving cycle. So, I’m trying to learn to view fruit as a treat. Not strawberry ice cream, but strawberries. I’m having to ease myself in. When we were in Chicago earlier this year, my friend found a recipe for maybe the most delicious scones ever. They’re made with strawberries and blueberries and sour cream, butter, milk, sugar. But the berries are fresh and they remind me I like berries. I could eat them without baking them into something.
So, I’m putting berries and other fruit into salads. If I have a taste of sweet with my meal, I’m not as likely to want dessert afterward. In case you are fighting similar sugar and carb cravings, or you just like a good salad recipe, I’m going to share salad recipes that feel particularly delicious and even a bit decadent.
My favorite salad this week:
- Mixed field greens or red and green romaine with spinach
- Asparagus roasted in frying pan with just a little olive oil–put on salad still warm
- Candied or salted pecans
- Goat cheese (I prefer tangy and on the firm side to offset the sweetness of the strawberries and pecans)
- Balsamic vinaigrette
Did I mention I’m easing my way out of the sugar thing? I’m sure the salad trumps a milkshake on health benefits any day. And unlike a big meal of pasta or some other carb-craving-cycle catalyst, this salad actually means I eat a healthy meal and don’t want or feel like I need dessert afterward.